4 simple steps for Creating your Best and Highest Self

With everything in the world swirling around us at breakneck speed nowadays, it seems like it’s easy to get lost in the mayhem.

I often find myself running down the rabbit hole chasing information on the latest political, social and economic events. And the result seems to be that I’ve been losing pieces of myself in the what-if scenarios of uncertainty and disarray.

Undoubtedly, this can’t be the way to create a life that supports wellness, peace, joy and fulfillment.

It took a firm and powerful stand to say “enough” of this mindless behavior that was stealing precious time from being my best and highest.

It was time to get back to the basics that took me so many years to learn, and then to live.

After what seemed like endless trial and error, I boiled down a formula that helped me to create a “soft place to land” within myself that doesn’t rely on any outside circumstances.

This feeling was constant and unwavering, even amidst the turmoil of life’s maelstroms.

The steps are simple, but not always easy because it involves focusing inward rather than being dragged by outside events and dramatic discourse.

Here they are.

Make time to do what brings you Joy

This one can be tricky because first you need to know what brings you joy. Granted, our activities at this point in time are limited, but perhaps it’s time for a list of possibilities.

Maybe it’s gardening, or stargazing, or spending time with a pet. Whatever it may be, make conscious time for it in your daily routine. You’re certain to feel the effects of a higher energy flow!

Affirm the positivity in your life

We are all blessed in some way. Acknowledging the blessings helps to create more of the same. I find that affirmations can be helpful. Here’s a simple one that I say out loud multiple times:

“I love Life and Life Loves Me”

After saying it repeatedly, like a mantra, I literally feel the energy around me shifting to bring it to fruition! I even start looking for the way life has my back. It’s amazing what manifests when you believe in the words!

My recommendation for this affirmation is 3 times per day, for 90 days. It doesn’t need to be anything formal, but it does need to be intentional. I’ve found that simply saying the words can reframe your day and move you towards your best and highest.

Mirror Talk – Be your own cheerleader

Do you remember those movies where the main character is talking to him/herself in the mirror to either get the courage to do whatever seemed insurmountable at the time, or to coach themselves through a situation?

There are many times when I feel like I’m not making progress or falling short of goals I set for myself. In these cases, instead of heading into a pity-party, (which I frequently did before I narrowed down these 4 steps), I did this instead:

I look straight into my eyes in the mirror and say words that support and uplift me to continue on the journey instead throwing in the towel. For example, if I missed a deadline or didn’t get my to do list done, I focus squarely on my eyes and say repeatedly:

It’s OK.

Pick it up and move forward.

You Got This.

So instead of berating myself for falling short, I’m empowering myself by understanding that hiccups happen and aren’t terminal character flaws! Believe me, it took me a long time to get this one.

It can take some practice to really believe the words rather than just say them. In the end, being kind with myself without losing focus was life-changing for me.

Claim Your Authenticity

For so many years, (decades) actually, I didn’t know who I was without being defined by society. By that I mean being someone’s sister, daughter, wife, friend, etc. was what I lived into. Honestly, it was exhausting.

Now, it’s been nearly 60 years on the face of the planet, and I’ve finally become comfortable with my definition of self. And although it’s constantly evolving, the fundamentals of my definition don’t change or waiver in the face of adversity or challenges.

I’d like to share with you an exercise that helped me immensely.

Write down somewhere that you can easily reference the top 7 qualities or strengths that you most appreciate in yourself.
For each quality or strength start with “I AM.”
Once you have them written down, say them out loud every day for 90 days.

At first, I felt like I was patting myself on the back – but that’s just the point! Each of us has our strengths and owning them proudly is a way of living your Best and Highest.

These 4 steps I just shared with you took me decades to both grasp let alone fully incorporate into my life. But once I did, the camber and cadence of my life was transformed.

If this all sounds overwhelming, perhaps try just one for a while. When you’re ready, then add another until you have all four in your daily life. Who wouldn’t want to live a life they truly love?

To Your Best and Highest,
Kit

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